God made sex a good thing… between a husband and a wife.
If you ever had the privlidge of sitting through a sermon on God’s design for sex, you most likely learned sex is for a husband and a wife.. So, if you missed out on this very important lesson let me sum it up for you.
Genesis 2:24 explains, “That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” We were never created to be bachelors or bacheloretts on constant prowl for our next sexual encounter. Sex only belongs to the married not to use as a means for personal satisfaction of means of sexual conquest. God’s word simple states we are to live holy lives.
As a single adult or youth , we are commanded to run far from sexual sin so it does not ruin our lives. 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 states, “Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body.19 Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, 20 for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.” (NLT)
Sadly, our society which tends to imulate the elite of Hollywood has a much different take on sex and basic values. It doesn’t take much reading between the lines to see that the media seems to have taken real issue with the notion of sexual purity.
For Christians compelled by a biblical sexual ethic—that is, believers who strive for pure hearts, minds, and bodies but trust in God’s grace on the (many) occasions when things go wrong—there’s a lot to unpack here.
Some of us have already felt this tension in our own personal lives. We’ve noticed the ways friends, co-workers, and even family members look at us with wide, troubled eyes when they catch wind of our commitment to honor God with our bodies. We may not have had our romantic lives spread across the front pages of Cosmopolitan, People, and the like, but we know what it’s like to be questioned, teased, or mocked as a result of our sexual inexperience.
And for many, this has been a hurtful experience. Being misunderstood always is.
But many of us would still like to know the truth: What is really at the heart of our culture’s rejection of sexual purity?
There seem to be several ways to answer this question; realistically, there’s more than one contributor at the crux of any one person’s objection.
Many reject the notion that one’s innate desires could ever be wrong in the first place. Saying “no” to the body’s whims and wishes might look to some like an attempt to go against nature; hence, they prefer to explore rather than “silence” a longing for sex.
Others find this whole ‘innocence’ routine completely unattractive. Sexual inexperience, through this lens, isn’t something to value but something to quickly get past. Real men (and women, even) by this standard aren’t waiting around to be old enough, or in love enough, or married enough to have sex. They’re doing it outside of the realm of Scripture’s teachings because of a secular culture that threatens to shame them should they say no.
But perhaps there’s another angle here. In all the commentary directed towards Underwood, the Jonas Brothers, and others like them who have at one point or another confessed virginity, there appears to be a common thread.
The attacks against Christian teens and young adults today aren’t friendly. In many cases, they are actually quite personal—most critics harbor grievances against something more than just a handful of young Christians doing the right thing by avoiding sin.
It seems that perhaps our culture is rejecting the notion of sexual purity because they’ve rejected its source: the church itself.
People have rejected the church and Scripture’s teachings for many reasons. Some find it fanciful. Others think it’s wise but perhaps not entirely true. Many more still reject it because they’ve rejected organized religion altogether.
But then, there are also those who’ve been hurt by the church—especially its teachings on purity—and feel judged or rejected for one reason or another. These individuals especially deserve our care and empathy as society “preaches” a sinful lifestyle.
Regardless of any one person’s reasoning, it is clear that our culture as a whole isn’t on board with Biblical sexuality (and I would argue the Bible as a whole) and will not be for the foreseeable future. We cannot prevent being exposed to people’s jokes or veiled criticisms here and there—but, we can hope to create for ourselves a better framework for engaging with our culture on this topic. We need to continue teaching the truth and explain why God’s will for us is meant to protect us, not harm us.